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    February 2008 | Filed under General Interest

    Cupid must be using poison arrows lately… or so it seems. Your valentine has been anything but sweet, adorable, or vivacious. But don’t take it personally, ladies. He may be among the 7 percent of men between the ages of 40 and 60 who have low testosterone levels, resulting in what has become known as Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).

    Even though it may seem like you’re living with the original Neanderthal man, rest assured that you’re not alone. As many as 5 million American men have low testosterone levels causing them to feel depressed, fatigued, irritable and less than passionate — about anything; relationships or career.
    Men get just as “hormonal” as women, perhaps even more so. According to Dr. Larrian Gillespie, author of The Gladiator Diet, men’s hormones pulsate hourly, compared with every 28 days for women. “Lower testosterone levels affect another hormone, serotonin, which is important in controlling your mood. The male who eats a low protein, low fat diet, deprives his brain of the ability to make serotonin, which results in depression and even headaches. Low serotonin levels signal the thyroid to slow down your metabolism, which can cause tiredness, hair loss, weight gain and low sex drive. Stress and high carbohydrate diets add to this pyramid of hormonal imbalances.”

    Studies show that testosterone levels begin to drop once you’re in your 30s. If you think your guy (or you, if you’re a man and reading this article) might suffer from IMS, stay away from foods like black licorice and breath mints. Gillespie said they contain a chemical that can dramatically reduce testosterone levels.

    So how do you put the romance back into your relationship? First and foremost, the bond of companionship in any relationship is communication; try to reestablish meaningful conversation with your partner. Remember when the two of you would talk for hours, and really listened to each other? Reach out to your partner ovingly — that means you don’t preface your sentences with comments such as, “You always,” or “You never” — and encourage him/her to open up and explain what is going on inside his head.

    According to “Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship,” by Hal Stone, Ph.D. and Sidra L. Stone, Ph.D, as with all relationships, we must learn how to relinquish judgment, improve decision making and communication, and celebrate sensuality and sexuality.


    More ideas to help rekindle those flames, for the both of you:

    Find and create Feng Shui “power spots” for love and romance. Pick up a copy of “Fast Feng Shui for Singles: 100 Ways to Heal Your House and Attract Romance,” by Stephanie Roberts. Never mind that this book was written for “singles.” This book inspires you to transform your home and heart into environments that welcome romance and support a lasting, loving relationship.

    Fast Feng Shui for Singles: 100 Ways to Heal Your House and Attract Romance” will tell you how to find your priority power spots for love and marriage. Some easy ways to enhance these areas are with:


    Love and relationships are very complex. It takes a great deal of effort to work through the day-to-day obstacles. However, these challenges can provide an opportunity to develop a loving, healthy relationship. In the end, it is worth all the effort.


    Forget Spanish fly or powdered rhino horn; if you want to get your lover in the mood, look no farther than your local supermarket. Strawberries, chocolate, asparagus — even coffee — have long been considered stimulants for the romantic appetite.

    The artwork will make you wonder whether to leave this out on your coffee table, or out on your kitchen counter. The few samples shown on Amazon.com certainly don’t give you the full “flavor” of the artistic genius that went into this book. Order your copy of “Intercourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook


    Fast Feng Shui for Singles: 100 Ways to Heal Your House and Attract Romance,” by Stephanie Roberts.


    Lillian Too’s Easy-To-Use Feng Shui For Love: 168 Ways To Happiness-Enhance Your Relationships Energize Your Friendships, Maximize Your Love Potential,” by Lillian Too.

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